What Is Sleep Coaching?
Who is Sleep Coaching For?
Whereas sleep is the magic land of dreams and the brain oasis when we have the chance to heal our body, sleep coaching consists of a range of techniques parents supported by coaches, teach their babies and toddlers in order to learn how to fall asleep autonomously and stay asleep for longer stretches.
These techniques are science based and vary from a gentle approach to a more controlled comforting method and even a stricter technique. Every child is unique and the best sleep coaching method depends on various factors amongst parenting style, baby’s age and temperament.
But above all, sleep coaching embodies a holistic approach where we look at everyday events and activies and we go even beyond the obvious and immediate cause of the sleep issue.
However, sleep coaching is not for everyone…
Will the sleep training involve crying?
Yes, sleep training could involve some crying, but if we look at crying as a way of communication for our baby and we try to listen to it instead of shutting it down, it could be the beginning of a beautiful friendship. Moreover, babies need to cry to release emotions, tensions, frustrations and nervous energy. Without this release, they keep it inside which could harm their nervous system.
How will we communicate during our collaboration?
We can successfully have a virtual communication, via email and messages, as well as via phone conversations if chosen. Parents can very well be the teacher of their babies, carefully guided by the sleep consultant.
Can I use music as white noise?
Yes, you could have music as white noise for your baby, but it has to be very boring sounds like monoton nature sounds (wind, rain etc.). However, white noise machines are more practical and quite affordable any time.
When can I move my baby into his own room?
The American Academy of Pediatrics as well as WHO recommend sleeping in the same room with the child, but not in the same bed, until the age of 12 months, for safety reasons.
When will my baby sleep through the night?
It depends on each baby but mostly when a child is well established on solid food, meaning 3 meals per day wiith protein and carbs, they could be ready to sleep through the night. This usually occurs around 10 month of age.
Do I really have to wake my baby up?
Yes, a flexible routine is very beneficial to a child and it encourages good eating and sleeping, thus following baby’s circadian rhythms. That sometimes meanswe need to wake our baby up in order to feed him or not let him nap too long during the day and steal from his overnight sleep.
How can I get rid of the dummy?
This depends very much on the child’s age and how much it interferes with his sleep. Whereas for a newborn the dummy has a calming soothing effect and it is recommended in SIDS prevention, after 8 months old, there are special techniques to help the baby find and replace his dummy so that he becomes more independent.
How can I make the difference between a mantra cry and a cry for help?
There is not a clear line between a mantra cry and a desperate cry for help. However, we could say that an intermittent cry with pauses longer than 15 sec. means that the baby is not suffering but rather struggles to fall asleep by himself.
Will sleep training have any damage on my baby's brain?
No, sleep training is a short term method to support your baby fall asleep more autonomously and stay asleep for longer stretches. Many studies have proved that only long term cronic stress (like child abuse or maternal depression) is toxic for a child and could affect brain circuit and disrupt the normal development of a child.
I was born and raised in a society where being a mother was the most noble and worth sacrificing mission on Earth. I love children and I have always liked to take care of them even before becoming a mom. I am a mother of two kids: a teenage boy and a toddler girl – my teachers and students at the same time – who help me grow and learn something valuable every day.
Nevertheless, it was only through motherhood when I realised that we don’t need to sacrifice ourselves and become just moms for the rest of our lives. We can enjoy even the early years of motherhood, have the right mood for taking care of our babies and share it with our partners, if we could only get a good night sleep.
That is why I embarked myself on the most rewarding ship of baby sleep coaching.
“My baby Helena was having a lot of trouble sleeping her naps, it was a real mess! She was doing around 6 or 7 cat naps per day, only on top of me. Night sleep, I though, was fine, although my baby was absolutely depending on being fed or rocked to sleep. Until I met Carmen! With her help, we managed to bring some order to our lives and improved my little one’s sleep…
“We looked for Carmen’s help when our 15 months old son started to wake up very early. He was, in general, a bad sleeper, waking up more times per night. We really wished that our son would finally sleep through the night in his cot. Taking into consideration the fact that our son has eczema and scratching was important to be avoided, Carmen came up with a more gentle and slow method, in order to fulfill our needs…
“With our second child (then 9 months old), I have accepted that a long night sleep for us could start when he’s 1.5 years old. When I found out about Carmen, I eagerly sent her a message and received detailed information from her.
To avoid disappointment, I prepared myself to the possibility that sleep training might not work for us. Surprisingly, within 2 challenging weeks and after 9 months, we were getting 5 straight hours of night sleep, compared to an average of 2 hours!…